"I really like reading your columns. But I think I'm the sickest person ever writing to you and I feel bad, bad, bad. I always get obsessed with guys..."
"Hi Matsume. I am seeing this IT guy, who is fun, energetic and a very caring guy. But I found out on our first night together that his..."
"I'm macho type. I excel at sports -- from hunting, cricket, soccer, and golf to rock climbing, and I drink often with the boys."
"I'd like to ask you, Matsume, is there anything you want to ask? Do you yourself have any deep questions or profound queries?"
Matters of the heart and genitals -- best of the AskMats advice column for 2011. Keep on shining, you crazy diamonds...
"And sometimes he'll say I love you... or I really like you, then turn around and say no, I'm Italian, don't believe what I say. What do I do?"
"The problem is, I don’t know how to tell him if he’s sleeping around, he’s not going to be sleeping with me again..."
"Is there any way I can get rid of this by myself? I don’t want to go to the hospital is that the doctors are going to make a big deal..."
"I think he’s putting the ball in my court. But I don’t know how I can take things to the next level... How to make a subtle move?"
"He's a dangerous man to fall in love with. Can a man change? Will he change? Should I visit his city for a month? What should I do?"
"Would you have any idea about where in Shanghai a guy might to in order to stick his dick in some liquid latex, or whatever they'd use..."
"Well sure enough, the inevitable has happened.... AND the only reason I know about it is because and he caught an STD!"
"Dear Matsume, I'm a 23-year-old virgin (girl), and I really want to get rid of it before April, 2012… Is it a good idea to get a one night stand?"
"When we were apart I hooked up with other people. He said he was okay with it, he’s not the jealous kind of guy, but it's gone cold."
"Things changed recently when she hurt me by contacting her ex-boyfriend and exchanged intimate pictures of herself..."
"Help, i'm so scared! I know my guy loves me for who I am but I still want to be sexy for him, and feel sexy for me, and I want to do this... "
"Me and my boy are looking for something to spice up our sex life. We were thinking in terms of a spa where we could go together..."
"Is it me? Do I need to get over myself because I'm old fashioned and got a big stick up my suburban ass? I know I'm somewhat prudish..."
"Hey Matsume, the significant one left me here in Shanghai and it still has the power to break my heart when we talk long distance..."
"My question is, should I take the time to really get to know him? Should I slow the relationship down no matter how much I want him?"
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