[Ask Mats]: Oh God, I Screwed My Ayi
Nov 19, 2013
Now I know you're going to shout at me for being such a fool, but try not to be cross. The thing is, I slept with my ayi. There, I've come out and said it. At the time I was single. She was single (I think, oh... who knows?). She's young and rather comely. Well, she's not that young, or comely, but I guess we both had the horn because one day when I was home from work, she had her mop and bucket out and... it just happened.
It was quite tender. It was fun. But afterwards I didn't know what to do. I didn't know whether it meant anything to her or she was just a free spirit and liked a bit of afternoon delight. She speaks no English, I speak very little Chinese, and after that I didn't see her for a while (I was always at work).
Then I got a girlfriend, a nice, plump Italian girl, and she moved in with me. And ever since, the ayi has gone Fatal Attraction. She growls at my new girl. She doesn't even pretend to clean any more. My girlfriend's things keep going missing and I'm pretty sure it's the ayi who's having them. My girlfriend speaks great Chinese and often works from home, so I'm scared that one day they will be a confrontation. My girlfriend hates the ayi and says she's rude and surly. Do I tell me girlfriend or fire the ayi? I feel bad doing the latter and foolish admitting to the former.
Surely I'm not alone in this situation. And though I feel like a fool, part of me can't forget that stolen afternoon, her mop left dripping on the floor, and the passion I briefly felt for that stout Anhui girl.
Well well well!
I love hearing hot passionate stories like this one! Kind of like the movie Secretary
, no? Oooo, power dynamics! I can imagine being the ayi myself and being ravished by this manly foreign figure whom I watched for years. It's a hot day and I can feel the sweat between my thighs trickling down. I pull my hair back in hope that you can see my soft, wet and salty neck for you to devour. My skirt is long and it's bothering me. I pull it up high enough to tempt you. I can feel your eyes on me. Come, come, come to me and ravish me from behind...
One sec, I need some Kleenex.
OK, I get it. I would have done the same, maybe even more than once. But the mistake you made here was to think that it didn't mean anything to her. And I know what you're thinking. It's not a "China thing", nor does it have anything to do with her being your ayi. This encounter obviously meant more to her than to you, and she's confused and hurt that it didn't, and that's something you're throwing right in her face by parading another girl in front of her. Hence the nasty stares to your gf, the missing objects, who knows, she could be spitting in your gf's coffee for all we know.
So yes, stop avoiding and do what needs to be done. Obviously you're not going to dump your gf for your ayi. Or will you? I don't know. My question is, why would your gf be bothered by a one off passionate fuck with your ayi before she even came into the picture? The whole nastiness might make sense to your gf and she may be a bit more sympathetic towards her. Or she'll find it awkward to be around your ayi now and ask you to fire her.
Well, everything has a consequence, now, doesn't it. Pretty obvious what's going to happen here. Choose one. Be honest to them both. And live with that choice.