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Pervert Party Perverted?
Mar 13th 10, 15:28 by | permalink
Hey Mats,
Just a note about the Pervert party, which is getting a lot of hype these days. I would really appreciate your feedback on it -- as in, how kinky is it really?
My impression is that it's an S&M-styled theme party, and it might as well be a pirate-ninja-jesus party for all it's worth... like, it's totally not a pervy affair.
I'm reinforced in this belief by the fact that in the SmSh interview with the organizer, "BDSM" is explained as "B(on) D(age) S(ado) M(asochism)" when in fact it means "Bondage Domination Sadism and Masochism".
[Ed's note: Whoops.]
All makes me think that it is what we used to refer to as a "(S)tand & (M)odel" party back in the day when I was in a city with a real scene. I mean really... the only thing that I can give them credit for it the dwarf. Dwarfs should be encouraged. So, you and I both know what is possible in this town, and what a real party is. What's your verdict? Vanillas playing dress up?
Introduction-level but showing possibilities?
Inquiring minds -- and frustrated pervs -- need to know. I don't expect that it even approaches a real play party, for a whole bunch of reasons, though I gotta say I'd love to see the whole fashionista crowd try to cope with watching a good, old-fashioned CBT / breadboarding session.
Always in hope for some real kink,
Dom
Just a note about the Pervert party, which is getting a lot of hype these days. I would really appreciate your feedback on it -- as in, how kinky is it really?
My impression is that it's an S&M-styled theme party, and it might as well be a pirate-ninja-jesus party for all it's worth... like, it's totally not a pervy affair.
I'm reinforced in this belief by the fact that in the SmSh interview with the organizer, "BDSM" is explained as "B(on) D(age) S(ado) M(asochism)" when in fact it means "Bondage Domination Sadism and Masochism".
[Ed's note: Whoops.]
All makes me think that it is what we used to refer to as a "(S)tand & (M)odel" party back in the day when I was in a city with a real scene. I mean really... the only thing that I can give them credit for it the dwarf. Dwarfs should be encouraged. So, you and I both know what is possible in this town, and what a real party is. What's your verdict? Vanillas playing dress up?
Introduction-level but showing possibilities?
Inquiring minds -- and frustrated pervs -- need to know. I don't expect that it even approaches a real play party, for a whole bunch of reasons, though I gotta say I'd love to see the whole fashionista crowd try to cope with watching a good, old-fashioned CBT / breadboarding session.
Always in hope for some real kink,
Dom
Dear Dom,
We both know that there is no real BDSM scene in Shanghai. And even if there was, pictures of the party wouldn't be posted on SmartShanghai or on the net. If I remember correctly, I wrote a similar article on this scene quite a few years back after the first S&M party in Gubei. Now that party was much kinkier and also educational for the average vanilla. On site tattoo artists, bondage displays, fire dancers, etc. Although it was only a one-night thing, it was fun!
But just like that "Freak and Fetish" party, Pervert is a themed party. I wouldn't expect more or less. Like I said, if a real BDSM party was happening in Shanghai, your average vanilla wouldn't know about it. And I still don't think there's a big enough community here to educate and start such a party. BDSM etiquette is something I'm sure the average joe doesn't know about. I think the last time I wrote about this was back in '06, and back then there were only 5 people who responded with a real background in what's involved. Not exactly a community -- not exactly a party, either. Maybe there's more out there now -- at least maybe enough to throw a munch and see where it goes.
S&M, like any other trend in Shanghai, is just that -- a trend. Of course there is some deviation and misunderstanding when BDSM is translated into something for a larger mainstream group, but I personally don't see it as a bad thing. BDSM is a meta-erotic and meta-physical fetish which I think all types of people can enjoy. But even at the real parties, there's always people who like to just dress up, watch or be watched or participate. And it's not up to us to judge. You should know this more than most people. To answer your question for you and all the other pervs out there, yeah the kink is dialed back significantly.
If you're looking for something more serious and authentic, you've gotta turn to where everyone else does: the internet. The Yahoo group is there, as well as numerous other platforms for hook-ups with like-minded individuals. You just gotta seek it out or throw it out there. You can organize your own munches, groups or even actual parties and see who goes. You never know, maybe there's more out there now.
Or all you freaks out there, contact me through my SmSh contact and I'll get you in touch with the others.
Hope that helps!
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