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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Obsessions ]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:59:15 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

I really like reading your columns a lot. 

But I think I'm the sickest person ever writing to you and I just feel bad, bad, bad.

My thing is that I always get obsessed with guys that don't want me.

Three months ago, I dated a European guy and although the dates were mediocre...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-unhealthy-obsessions">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-days-of-not-hard-nights</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]:  Days of Not Hard Nights]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 29 Feb 2012 13:01:38 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume, 

Don't know if you've been asked this question before:

Do you prefer your man have small hard cock or big soft one? 

I am seeing this IT guy, who is fun, energetic (he does mountain biking racing) and a very caring guy (hard to find nowadays). But I found out on our first night...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-days-of-not-hard-nights">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-skeletons-and-the-closet</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Skeletons and the Closet]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 31 Jan 2012 11:17:03 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume, 

Dig your column.  I’ve been reading it for about five years and it always cracks me up.  Helps me introspect or just plain fantasize about the possibilities in our great city…

I'm hoping you could help me out here with some of your much publicized and...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-skeletons-and-the-closet">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-ponderous-matters</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Ponderous Matters]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 11 Jan 2012 15:28:54 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[My dearest Matsume,

I have been a follower of your column, taking delight in the naughtiness
of your replies to SmSh readers’ delicate situations for a while…

And now I have a question and need some advice on YOUR situation! 

You see, Matsume, I've seen you pile up the columns and...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-ponderous-matters">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-italo-just-go</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Italo Just-Go]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 09 Nov 2011 12:48:51 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey girl,

I gotta say I love your articles. So basically I'm complicated.

Hah. Let's see I'm seeing this guy, crazy, funny... crazy. Italian. I love spending time with him but he's complicated. He recently broke up with his ex who did what the stereotypical Shanghainese does: wanted him to...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-italo-just-go">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-worlds-apart</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Worlds Apart ]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 11 Oct 2011 11:47:59 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

You have the best column I have ever read, so I need your help...

I met my ex-boyfriend a little over two years ago in Shanghai. At the time we both liked each other, but knew we were both leaving Shanghai. Somehow our “friends with benefits” situation turned into a two-year...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-worlds-apart">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-get-thee-to-a-clinic</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Get Thee to a Clinic]]></title>
				<pubDate>Thu, 15 Sep 2011 12:00:25 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey,

I think I have yeast infection. Is there any way I can get rid of this by myself? The reason I don’t want to go to the hospital is that the doctors are going to make a big deal in order to make more money.

So is there anything I can maybe get over the counter?

If so what is it...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-get-thee-to-a-clinic">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-escalation-strategies</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Balls and Courts]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 05 Sep 2011 14:57:46 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

I've been following your columns ever since I can remember and just like everyone else, I really like your brutally honest opinion -- just wondering if you could shine a light into my situation…

I met this guy a few months back at a friend’s party.  Shortly after, he asked...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-escalation-strategies">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-seize-the-day</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Seize the Day]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 06 Jul 2011 17:27:17 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

You're all kinds of awesome and I really hope you can help me with my dilemma.

Recently, I met a great guy (handsome, funny, Ivy-league, down-to-earth, great sex and cuddling... yada yada). But he's in town only for another two months.

We hit it off from the get-go and have...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-seize-the-day">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-on-creating-a-brohammer</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: On Crafting A Bro's Hammer]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 27 Jun 2011 15:18:15 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Matsume,

An ex-gf of mine is currently investigating the pleasures of the lesbian lifestyle.  She's still a big fan of my happy bits, and has requested that I make her a dildo of my nether regions so that she can wear it as a strap-on while engaging in various activities with her...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-on-creating-a-brohammer">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-cheatin-hearts-infected-parts</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Cheatin' Hearts, Infected Parts]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 07 Jun 2011 17:39:47 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Mats, 

You are fab and funny but I’m writing to you because you are brutally honest and I need your advice!

I live here with my husband and we have been here for a few years. We moved over for work as it has worked well for both of our careers.

We have been together a long time and...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-cheatin-hearts-infected-parts">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-late-bloomers</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Seeking Carnal Knowledge]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 24 May 2011 12:58:24 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Mats,

I'm a 23-year-old virgin (girl), and I really want to get rid of it before April, 2012…

Is it a good idea to get a one night stand with a random guy to get it over with? 

I've never been in a relationship before but I’ve had the opportunity to do so.  It’s just the ones...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-late-bloomers">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/ask-mats-on-again-off-again</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: On Again, Off Again]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 25 Apr 2011 16:20:03 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

Like your articles a lot, cuz you always hit the points to help people see the things they didn't see or didn't want to see in a wrong relationship...

Anyways, I met this guy through some friends a few months ago.  He asked me to be his girlfriend although we only hung out a few...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/ask-mats-on-again-off-again">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-pros-and-cons</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Pros… and CONS]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 28 Mar 2011 15:57:12 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

I like your articles very much. The advice is straight-talking and no-holds-barred. Please help me with this...

I am an indian and have been living with my Chinese girlfriend for a year now.  She’s a great girl and I thought I loved her to bits until I had to meet her parents....<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-pros-and-cons">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-shaved-and-confused</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Shaved and Confused]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 14 Mar 2011 17:09:49 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Mats,

First of all: LOVE your articles! Second of all: please help me because I'm so fucking scared to get a Brazilian!!

I'm doing long distance with my partner and I thought it might be a nice surprise to be all waxed down there when I meet him in a couple of weeks...

The thing is I've...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-shaved-and-confused">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-threea-crowd</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Three’s a Crowd]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 22 Feb 2011 12:20:37 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume

Me and my boy are looking for something to spice up our sex life. We were thinking in terms of a spa where we could go together to share some spa treatments and a long and sensual massage, preferably in the same room. Maybe with maybe a little ‘spice’. 

We’ve both seen the...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-threea-crowd">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/technicaldifficulties</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Technical Difficulties]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 24 Jan 2011 14:26:04 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

Love reading your column every time it’s on and now I need to ask you for some advice for  myself.

I've met a guy here in Shanghai and have fallen for him. Unfortunately, and of course, he was just visiting Shanghai but we stayed in touch ever since and plan to meet up again....<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/technicaldifficulties">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-flight-risks2011-01-05</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Flight Risks]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 05 Jan 2011 18:30:08 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

Knowing that you're the perfect person to ask when we children loose our way here in Shanghai, I've got a question for you. I've been thrown a curve ball from my former significant other and I need to figure out how to deal with it...   The significant one left me here in...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/askmats-flight-risks2011-01-05">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/love-in-the-wrong-places</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Love in the Wrong Places]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 21 Dec 2010 16:31:08 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

I am a big fan of yours and I think you are very balanced in your responses.

Here is my story: I am a Latin Girl and I recently met a European guy in shanghai. He has been living here for many years now and is settled down. We met at a bar and I basically fell immediately for...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/love-in-the-wrong-places">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1775</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Dirty Thirty]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 01 Dec 2010 12:12:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

I have a more general concern, but one that's seriously affecting my game in the land of dating. 

I'm getting closer and closer to 30, and it's starting to freak me out. Part of the reason is because a lot of the expats I meet are so much younger than I am. The other part is that...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1775">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1760</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Great Escapes]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 17 Nov 2010 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

Do you still recommend this place as a quick romantic escape?
Is there any more romantic getaways from Shanghai you could recommend? 

Give us the gamut from high end to modest perhaps? Places that don't involve air travel. Hired car, train or bus are good. A few hours from...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1760">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1750</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[Ask Mats: Blond Ambition]]></title>
				<pubDate>Thu, 04 Nov 2010 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume, 

I'm a blond guy living in Shanghai since two years. 

I live in a nice place, but with other people to share the costs for rent. Also, I don't have income. Is there any chance I can keep a Chinese girl as girlfriend, or does my housing/income situation really disqualify...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1750">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1733</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Women of Vintage]]></title>
				<pubDate>Thu, 14 Oct 2010 13:10:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hello Matsume,

I lust for older women and I would love to find a cougar bar or club. I heard there are some in Shanghai for older women that are looking for younger men. Do you know where I can find some?

Young Buck



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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Wanted Advances]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 14 Sep 2010 12:09:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

I need your guidance... I want this guy. 

We're both near 30, he's super delish, he holds a stable job, responsible but not too serious, a gentleman, we connect mentally, and our personalities mesh together so well that conversation just flows naturally, and we're open to...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1719">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1702</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Tempestuous Youth]]></title>
				<pubDate>Fri, 27 Aug 2010 12:08:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Mats,

I'm feeling really goddamn down. 

I had a relationship with this guy who claimed that it's his first "real" relationship.  His saying that gave me hope whenever a problem would arise between us.

But then about a month ago he said he needed a break and we broke up. 

We recently...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1702">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1687</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Mating 101]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 11 Aug 2010 14:01:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

I face again and again the same problem: I can't find a decent man.  I can't even find a one-night-stand in the club, bar, pub, or other drinking facilities...

I am not so bad looking and some of my friends say to me that I am quite hot. I dress okay -- no short miniskirts and no...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1687">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1672</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Getting Personal]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 27 Jul 2010 12:07:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume, You are the one and only who can help me out with this...I am a European guy and I came to Asia almost two and a half years ago. The first year was pure fun, sexually speaking, and I really enjoyed it, than, one year ago, I met this super beautiful, sexy, brilliant, smart,...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1672">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1663</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Looking For More]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 19 Jul 2010 13:07:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Mats,

Why is it that people in Shanghai all want to have sex? Why is this city so lustful? Is it the air / people / culture / food... 

And mostly, why can't I find a decent person to be with, not looking for just a one-night-stand? 

Thanks,

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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Future Concerns]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 06 Jul 2010 12:07:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

I met my boyfriend in Shanghai and we've been in one of those rare, committed SH relationships for two and a half years now. He's 38 and I'm 25. I never thought of our 13-year age gap as a problem, since we've have no problems communicating at all.

He's spent the last 5 months in...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1649">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1637</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Move On, Sista]]></title>
				<pubDate>Fri, 18 Jun 2010 12:06:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey Mats,I'm a 22 years old Chinese girl.  I met an older man from my work, and he just divorced his wife.  He is really a good man -- handsome, tender, kind.  I almost fall in love with him, and maybe I have already. We kissed when he said he likes me, and two days after we slept together.  He...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1637">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1622</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Great Divides]]></title>
				<pubDate>Thu, 27 May 2010 12:05:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Mats,

I am in a tricky relationship with a guy. We briefly dated for about two months. Then because of work, we separated with him in HK and me Shanghai. 

In the past year, he's emailed me a lot but he still has never came over to visit me, even though it's only a 2-hour flight distance....<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1622">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1606</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: The Rough Stuff]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 10 May 2010 12:05:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume，Me and my GF have amazing sex -- we do it at least twice a day. We are just so horny for each other that it gets a bit out of control sometimes. (i.e. From BJs in a taxi to a wild scene in a random public toilet...)We recently watched a movie that reaaally turned her on:...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1606">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1573</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Bored and Lonely Men]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 30 Mar 2010 12:03:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey M,

My bf will be gone for the next month, and I KNOW I'll get bored and "lonely". I wanted to know if you knew of any gay friendly sex shops. I've been hard pressed to find anything as of yet that sells gay vids (would prefer actual DVDs to just finding stuff on the net) or male sex toys in...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1573">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1560</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Pervert Party Perverted?]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 13 Mar 2010 12:03:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey Mats,  

Just a note about the Pervert party, which is getting a lot of hype these days.  I would really appreciate your feedback on it -- as in, how kinky is it really?
 
My impression is that it's an S&M-styled theme party, and it might as well be a pirate-ninja-jesus party for all...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1560">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1517</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Summer Babes]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 01 Mar 2010 13:03:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

As it will soon again be very humid in Shanghai again, I was wondering if you can recommend make-up brands that won't melt off my face during the summer.  Time to stock up!

Thanks, 
KG

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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Myriad Forms]]></title>
				<pubDate>Fri, 12 Feb 2010 12:02:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Mats,

My ex boyfriend was my first man. His penis is average -- maybe a bit small. As he was my first and only man so far, I'm not sure, but I think he can't stay erect very well. He liked putting pillows under my knees or butt when we were in certain positions, and the angle of his erect...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1542">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1538</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Hearts & Minds]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 06 Feb 2010 12:02:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Heyya Matz,

I see you know a thing or two about Shanghai and actually I thought I did too but I am in a bit of a conundrum at the moment.

You see, I have a long term Shanghainese girl and I've been slowly working away at her mama and baba to show them that I'm not really a bad guy trying to...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1538">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1525</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Bachelor Party Suggestions]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 26 Jan 2010 12:01:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey Mats! 

Love your column, read it secretly at work all the time. 

I need your advice on something that's very important to my community.  We're planning a bachelor party for a friend of ours who's getting married mid-February. We have a plan, but we need advice on how to carry it...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1525">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1519</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: The Flood Gates]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 19 Jan 2010 12:01:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume!

Since moving to Asia I have come across a very interesting topic: female ejaculation. (“Squirting” in the American parlance, or “gushing” as they call it in the UK.)  After partaking in extensive discussions my male friends, we came to the collective conclusion that female...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1519">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1508</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Goin' the Distance]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 05 Jan 2010 12:01:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hey Matsume, 

I started reading your page today and I have been reading for 3 hours now. I totally love your ideas. So I think you can help me with my shameful problem. 

Which is that I orgasm very quickly, usually within less than 5 minutes. 

This problem made the sex life with my...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1508">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1498</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Friends or More]]></title>
				<pubDate>Fri, 11 Dec 2009 12:12:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Ok, here's my story, morning glory. 

We were just normal friends for a year (share the same group of friends) before we kind of got together secretly without anyone knowing, i.e. closet dating. 

We split up a few months ago due to his past haunting him (read: his ex). Since then, we will...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1498">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1494</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Communication Breakdown]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 05 Dec 2009 12:12:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume!

Long time reader of your posts, and now I find myself in the position to ask a question... (Not feeling as happy as I should on this occasion, I guess you will understand why once you have read it!)

Well, my background first: I've been in Shanghai about three and a half years now....<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1494">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1486</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Lost in Translation]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 28 Nov 2009 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

Thanks for your column -- always an enjoyment for me to read.

I've been in a relationship for about half a year.  It's a good thing and makes life more pleasant but...

The both of us share a similar cultural (western) background, so that's not causing a lot of trouble, but we...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1486">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1476</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: Hard Water Hair Care]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,&#8232;&#8232;Since moving to Shanghai, I’ve noticed that my hair is pretty much always greasy.  When I travel to Hong Kong, I see a change right away and I’ve been told it's because the water that comes out of the faucets in shanghai is hard water, whereas lots of HK apartment...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1476">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1470</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats:] The Great Outdoors]]></title>
				<pubDate>Sat, 14 Nov 2009 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

Which exotic places in Shanghai are good for having sex with my girlfriend?

Parks, rooftops, bars, hotels (budget), hotels (luxury)...

What's the best place you've had sex in Shanghai?

PG

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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: No Scrubs]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 03 Nov 2009 12:11:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,

I have been following your column for quite a while and I want to share something with you.

It seems like most guys are focused on getting laid, and there's nothing wrong with that, but very few men are actually thinking about giving pleasure to their partners. 

My last lover...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1457">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1441</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: One Small Step for Women]]></title>
				<pubDate>Tue, 20 Oct 2009 12:10:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Ni hao!

I've been reading your column every time I get the chance to, and while mostly I do it for entertainment, I must say, I get a few things out of it too.  Now, I must ask something...

I've been seeing this great guy for about a month now, and we still haven't really "gotten down to...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1441">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1430</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[AskMats]: DIY Lube]]></title>
				<pubDate>Mon, 12 Oct 2009 13:10:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

Why can't you get lube in chain stores or convenience stores?  There are literally shelves of condoms, but no lube.  My boyfriend thinks maybe Chinese girls just get wetter.  I think more likely the boys don't care as much. 

What's going on here?

Smoker

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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: National Day Action]]></title>
				<pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 12:09:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Hi Matsume,

This will be my first time staying in Shanghai for October holidays so I am trying to find some fun.  I am thinking of watching fireworks (60th anniversary -- should be spectacular, right?) but I realized that I cannot find much useful information on either Google/Baidu.  So bear...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1420">Read On</a>]]></description></item><item><link>http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1410</link>
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				<title><![CDATA[[Ask Mats]: Tangled Webs]]></title>
				<pubDate>Wed, 16 Sep 2009 12:09:00 +0700</pubDate>
				<description><![CDATA[Dear Matsume,I had my first 4-some experience last week.  After that, the same two guys that were in on it are bugging me to do it again.  I liked both of them, the two guys, and last week they picked up a girl from Tongren Lu for the 4-some.  I must say I did not mind it but I was also...<br><a href="http://www.smartshanghai.com/askmatsume/?m=1410">Read On</a>]]></description></item></channel></rss>
